Marz went up to Duluth yesterday, to sign her apartment lease.
bink & I went with her, and while Marz went to a transfer-student meeting at the U after, we went hiking in nearby Hartley Park--picking up a loop of the Superior Hiking Trail. This is one of my favorite places.
Below, I'm pointing toward Lake Superior in the distance. You could keep hiking for 300 more trail miles along the North Shore...
Due to last-minuteness, Marz ended up with a huge apartment, paying more rent than she wanted, but the windows look onto Lake Superior, just down the hill.
Her apartment's in an old brick building, not gentrified by/for Californian climate refugees (not yet). The laundry room is in the old stables underneath--you have to go outside and enter through stable doors! A bit inconvenient in winter...
Shabby-chic, it has the most amazing radiators--below, in the bathroom. Don't they look like cathedral windows?
A shop below her apartment sells used outdoor gear––hiking, biking, kayaking–– and at the corner, a place serves Philly cheesesteak and adult (alcoholic) ice-cream floats. I didn't see toffee ice-cream in Guiness though.
The U starts Monday, and Marz'll make a couple more trips with her stuff in her little car--her bike alone will take up half the available space.
A different friend is going with her today, but Sunday will be a one-way drive...
This morning she said, "I'm not going."
I feel for her. She's making enormous changes at the last minute, and to some extent all this is based on an idea, FREE TUITION, not on a deep desire.
But that's what eighteen-year-olds do, right? Head off to college because it's the Next Thing to Do, not because they have a driving need to get educated. Not that Marz is eighteen! I mean, it's a passage in American life--leaving home to go to college, and she's never done that...
I said, "You can always come back". That's true, and Marz has returned from adventures before, but she's more locked in than before, with classes set for the coming semester--plus, she signed a one-year lease.
Once again I get a mommish experience--the empty nest.
Marz has lived with me off and on in the thirteen years since she moved here (from Oregon), after Camino 2011. Mostly off in recent years, but on again this summer or I wouldn’t feel such a tug.
When she leaves, I'll move my bed back into the bedroom and set up a better printmaking area in the living room. I'll reserve a table JUST for inking and printing, because I keep making a mess doing everything on one crowded table. Tiny bits of carved linoleum get in the ink...
Besides working on little stories, I want a production project--something I can do without much thinking (assuming my brain will be tired from working). Marz suggested a poster of 49 images of Little Brother--the small bear who got locked in the basement--each image in 3 different colors. This would be a good jigsaw style printing project.
I found a Community Ed class I might take: Exploring Home Printmaking. They don't say what kind of printmaking, but I'd be open to trying most any kind you can do at home.
Five Thursdays starting late October (dark! cold!), only $55 ($300 less than the summer class I took at the professional print studio).
So I’m good to go.
I've gathered that Marz is a de facto "daughter". Nice of you and Bink to accompany her. I hope she settles in happily at college. Your hike looks wonderful.
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Yes, Marz is like a foster daughter as well as a friend. She comes from a bumpy background so almost nothing settles smoothly for her—but always interestingly! 😆
Delete$55 is really a steal—But you never know about the quality of community Ed…
Ah, I have that "I'm not going" moment before every trip and new endeavor. I'm sorry to hear it afflicts others, although maybe it's just a celebration of ones agency? The new apartment looks great - hope it's not dreadfully cold in the months to come.
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I read that it’s a predictable cognitive bias – – the dread of starting something you’d been excited to sign up for!
DeleteMarz will be fine! We're saying Goodbye to many of the cadre of high school girls who waited tables since they were sixteen or seventeen, going off to college. I'm one of the few who can say Have a great adventure; you will do well, and now off with you. So many others sob goodbye, like these youngsters need that, too.
ReplyDeleteOther people’s confidence in you is a great boost! Plus, I gave her one of your hand woven towels, Joanne – – the yellow one – – so if she’s weeping buckets, at least she’ll have a nice towel to mop it up with!
Deletebest of luck to marz! the "not going" moment happens to even the best of us. sometimes it's like "it's so far off" that it isn't until the day before that the enormity of what has been signed up for becomes real. love, love the apartment and that radiator is to die for. one in the bathroom is great as i used to put my towel on one in the winter to have a warm towel when i came out of the shower.
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Speaking of towels – – in the comment to Joanne, above—Yours is a wonderful idea for warm towels!
DeleteIt’s nice her apartment faces the lake for the view, but the wind off that lake as you know can be wicked in winter. Luckily the apartment does have good, new windows